t’s striking how quickly I can move into frustration and anger with my children. Even when I know a more compassionate response is possible, I sometimes react before I have the chance to pause. Those moments have made me wonder what helps us create more space between stimulus and response.

The same gap between our trigger and response exists at work. When employees are under pressure or leaders are navigating uncertainty its easy to become less patient, more reactive, or quicker to make assumptions. Compassion creates space to pause, understand what may be happening, and choose a more helpful response.

Compassion benefits both the giver and receiver.  For the giver, compassion is associated with greater resilience, stress regulation, and psychological well-being. For the receiver, compassion communicates care, understanding, and support, which can strengthen connection and trust. At work, compassionate interactions can help employees and leaders navigate pressure, relate to colleagues, and foster belonging and psychological safety. In families, it can support more responsive, patient relationships and help create a sense of emotional safety. 

But extending compassion outward can be difficult when we are depleted, stressed, or caught in self-criticism. To consistently offer our children or colleagues patience, understanding, and kindness, we first have to practice extending those same qualities inward. Dr. Kristin Neff is a leading researcher on self-compassion and I have returned to her Self-Compassion Break many times.

The practice has three parts:
1. Mindfulness: This is a moment of suffering. Notice and name what is happening.
2. Shared humanity: Suffering is part of life. I am not alone. Remember that imperfection and struggle are universal.
3. Self-kindness: May I respond with kindness. Place a hand over your heart and offer yourself the care you would give a friend.

This practice begins with turning toward our own experience with mindful awareness and kindness. From there, we can extend that same compassionate attention to others. Psychologist Tara Brach describes this as the two wings of a bird. Just as a bird needs both wings to fly, we need both mindfulness and compassion to create greater healing and peace in our daily lives.

What frustrates me is that these ideas aren’t new to me. I know mindfulness creates space for a wiser response. I know the power of the pause and the value of self-compassion.

And still, I forget. 
Or perhaps, more accurately, I don’t practice enough.

The good news is that compassion is a skill we can strengthen. Like any muscle, it develops through repetition. Each pause, each moment of awareness, and each compassionate response makes the next one more accessible.

I recently discovered another practice to add to my compassion toolkit called Just Like Me. I heard about it through a wonderful podcast, and it's one I hope to return to frequently.

The practice is simple:
Bring to mind someone with whom you are struggling: a child, partner, coworker, or friend. Picture them in front of you and silently repeat:
This person has a body and a mind, just like me.
This person has experienced fear, sadness, anger, and hurt, just like me.
This person wants to be loved, understood, heard, and seen, just like me.
This person wants to feel safe, healthy, and happy, just like me.

Then extend simple wishes of goodwill:
May this person be free from suffering.
May this person be safe.
May this person experience health, ease, and happiness.

This practice does not excuse hurtful behavior or eliminate the need for boundaries. Instead, it helps us remember our shared humanity and recognize that the people in front of us, whether children, partners, colleagues, neighbors, or even ourselves, are carrying experiences we cannot fully see.

Challenging behavior can sometimes signal that a basic physical, emotional, or psychological need is not being met. Compassion invites us to look beyond the behavior and ask: What might this person need right now?

Whether we are parenting, leading, collaborating, or simply moving through an uncertain world, we have the opportunity to choose compassion and curiosity over judgement. Through small, compassionate moments, we can strengthen our families, workplaces, and communities.

As the Dalai Lama reminds us, If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. 

When I bring my daughter along for exercise excursions, I'm usually letting her be the DJ, choosing the music or playing Circle Round stories. But last week, during a bike ride, she said she didn't want any music at all. I think she was simply excited to be on the back of my bike  as it had been a while since we'd gone for a ride together.
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As we rode, I found myself smiling as I listened to her hum and eventually begin making up her own little songs. We also enjoyed the peace of the evening: the cool breeze on our faces and the warmth of the late-afternoon sun on our backs.
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The experience left me wondering about the potential harms of filling every walk, run, drive, or ride with podcasts, music, and other forms of constant input.

It doesn't take much searching to discover that intentional periods of quiet and reduced sensory input can help children build concentration, supports memory and language development, fosters creativity, and strengthens emotional self-regulation. One study involving rodents even found that mice in the silent environment experienced the most significant brain cell growth.

Continuous sound can overstimulate developing brains, while quiet moments create space for creativity and self-reliance. Without constant input, children—and adults alike—have more opportunities to wonder, observe, imagine, and create.

As parents, we spend so much energy curating experiences for our children. But perhaps one of the greatest gifts we can offer is a little less input and a little more space.

What might happen if we occasionally left the music off?

What might we discover if we spent more time in silence?

What ideas, observations, or emotions might surface if we weren't constantly filling every empty moment?

Let me know your thoughts and experiences.

Confession: I don't always practice what I preach when it comes to movement during the workday.

After a recent 7 days of wonderful PTO, I came back to a full inbox and competing priorities, which led me to unconsciously stay glued to my desk without taking any real breaks. Despite knowing the importance of regular movement and the power of "exercise snacks*, I fell into the trap of working nonstop to get it all done.

And sure, I got a lot done. But at what cost? Mentally, I felt more drained and had less energy for my kids. And physically, I felt tight and sluggish. I also know that the consequences of prolonged inactivity go well beyond what we can feel in the moment. Although I still forced myself to exercise after work, research suggests that one workout doesn't offset the harm of spending much of the day sitting (or standing still). Even so-called "active couch potatoes"—people who exercise regularly but sit for prolonged periods—face elevated health risks.

Making space for movement amid the competing demands of work, caregiving, and the unyielding stream of unsettling news and global conflict that can leave us feeling depleted is something to celebrate. Tired as I was last week, I still made time to run with my daughter in the jogging stroller and bike with her to the park. And those moments reminded me that exercise isn't just about our  physical health. It's how we maintain our capacity to show up for the people and responsibilities that matter most.
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I also know from experience how easy it is to lose your groove with exercise when life gets busy or routines get disrupted. A few missed days can quickly turn into a few missed weeks, and getting started again can feel daunting. That's where small moments of movement come in. When we experience success moving, even just a little, our confidence grows, our sense of self-efficacy increases, and we set ourselves up for more movement over time.

So after two days of working more or less nonstop post PTO, I took a step back and recommitted to building short movement breaks into my day. I've been actively scheduling walking meetings and turned my movement reminders back on. I am privileged to work in an environment where that is encouraged, and the difference has been almost immediate—my energy level has improved and I no longer have that nagging feeling that I wasn't living in alignment with my values.

A walk while taking a phone call, taking the stairs instead of the elevator, two minutes of stretching between meetings, lifting weights in the middle of your workday, countertop pushups while your coffee is brewing….these moments may seem small, but they add up. And research increasingly shows that accumulating movement throughout the day can provide meaningful benefits, including better metabolic health, reduced joint stiffness, enhanced focus, reduced mental fatigue, and improved stress and mood. 

My experience last week also reinforced something I see regularly in my work as a Workforce Health Consultant: supporting physical activity in the workplace is not just a "nice to have," it's a smart investment. The workplace, where we spend the majority of our waking hours, is an ideal place to encourage small, frequent movement breaks. And research shows that teams that move together tend to be more engaged and satisfied and healthier employees tend to have fewer health risks, lower disability and healthcare costs, and stronger job performance.

As the Physical Activity Alliance reminds us, "while personal choices matter, they're heavily influenced by the world around us." When our calendars are packed and workplace cultures reward constant busyness, movement becomes harder. But when breaks are encouraged, walking meetings are normalized, and leaders model healthy behaviors, movement becomes easier.

So I want to uplift the Physical Activity Alliance's new employer resource, Promoting Physical Activity in the Modern Workplace, which is full of insightful case studies and strategies for integrating movement into the workday and offers a deep dive into the power of policy, systems, and environmental changes. Please share this resource widely and encourage your leaders to sign the CEO Pledge for Physical Activity!

At the end of the day, we don't need perfect exercise routines. We need supportive environments, in our workplaces, homes, and communities, that make it easier to move a little more often.

It's often less about finding more time and more about finding ways to weave movement into the life we're already living.
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Because every movement break counts. And sometimes those small moments of movement are exactly what help us keep showing up for our work, our families, and ourselves.
 
*Exercise snacks are exactly what they sound like: short bursts of physical activity spread throughout the day, often lasting anywhere from 30 seconds to 5 minutes. They help shift the conversation from "I need to work out" to "How can I fit small moments of movement into my day?" This shift is especially important for busy working parents like me.

I was fortunate enough to attend a mindfulness in nature retreat and have been meaning to reflect on the power of being outside, slowing down, and reconnecting with the joy, wonder, and wisdom of nature.

But that reflection keeps getting interrupted by the very real demands of caregiving. Even with strong support at home, it’s a reminder of how constant—and consuming—this role can feel.  And I know that I'm not alone. In fact, 1 in 5 full-time workers are caregivers, many balancing both children and aging parents. 

Caregiving often comes with chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, social isolation and things less talked about: the feeling of always being “on”, the mental load, co-parenting, and the quiet trade-offs we make with our own health, time, and energy. In fact, many caregivers neglect their own health, often citing limited time to schedule appointments. And nearly 2 in 5 caregivers are managing two or more chronic conditions themselves.

And for working parents, there’s another layer: over half report missing work at least once a month due to their child’s mental health needs. 

It can feel like a personal challenge in the moment. But it’s not. It’s a workforce reality. When caregivers are stretched thin, it shows up in focus, performance, and burnout. But when they’re supported, everything changes—for employees, families, and organizations.

Supporting caregivers isn’t a nice-to-have benefit. It’s a workforce health imperative.
Support can look like:
·      Flexible schedules and realistic workload expectations
·      Mental health resources that extend to dependents
·      A culture where caregiving is acknowledged—not hidden

Because when we invest in caregivers, we’re not just helping them—we’re supporting the next generation, too.

I’m also reminding myself of a few things that help…
·      Short breaks can be powerful resets (especially outside)
·      Asking for help—and leaning on others—matters more than we think 
·      Our health has to be part of family life, not separate from it
·      Taking in the good prevents burnout
·      Prioritizing repair and self-compassion is critical

If you’re navigating caregiving right now: What’s one thing that’s helping you stay grounded?

I wanted to share a few recent insight articles from my colleagues on how to better support employees and express gratitude for the work my organization is leading to support employee well-being and to advance both adult and youth mental well-being—through prevention, early intervention, and a broader focus on the crucial drivers of health like sleep, nutrition, physical activity, social connection, and addressing unmet social needs.

https://business.kaiserpermanente.org/california/healthy-employees/health-equity/supporting-caregivers-workplace

https://business.kaiserpermanente.org/healthy-employees/mental-health/parental-stress

https://business.kaiserpermanente.org/healthy-employees/mental-health/proactive-stress-management

​Recently I came across an acronym shared by creator Shauhin Davari that is both inspiring and actionable, and has helped me rethink my relationship with anxiety and hopelessness. It’s called ADAPT, and it offers a pathway from paralysis to purposeful action.

I last wrote about the power of naming our emotions and recognizing my own feeling of hopelessness. Now we’re three weeks into a war that violates both U.S. constitutional law and international law. Like many, I’ve been wrestling with dread, disappointment, and a constant pull to consume more news. Limiting my media intake helps keep me grounded, but the uncertainty and the environmental and human toll surrounding this conflict remains deeply unsettling.

An environment of constant crisis and information overload can leave people feeling powerless, which diminishes engagement. ADAPT gives us a roadmap out of that trap.

 A — Act (because action metabolizes anxiety)
"We are, perhaps, uniquely among the earth's creatures, the worrying animal.” - Lewis Thomas, M.D.

Anxiety often drives doomscrolling. We try to reduce uncertainty by seeking more information, but instead we often absorb more fear, stress, and helplessness. The first A invites us to shift the cue: instead of letting anxiety trigger scrolling, let it trigger action.

One small action is enough:

• Send an email or make one phone call to your elected officials.
• Donate to independent journalism or a humanitarian project.
• Look for a small volunteer opportunity in your neighborhood.

And there are actions that can help stabilize our stress at home, too:

• Return to simple routines and rituals – preparing meals, gratitude and prayer, chores, a few pages of reading, sensory anchors, daily walks, sunlight, social connection.
• Use grounding techniques: slow breathing, stretching, physical stillness. Anything that reconnects you to your body and the present moment.

These small actions steady the nervous system and interrupt the spiral.

And perhaps another A that I can add to kick this off is Acceptance. This is a tough one for me. Perhaps I resist acceptance because it feels like giving up or agreeing with what’s happening. But acceptance is not endorsement. It simply means: “This is the reality of the world right now, and resisting that reality is draining me.” Acceptance softens the internal fight so we can respond with steadiness rather than panic.
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D — Disrupt the Doom
Doom drains us.  

I’ve spent more time than I’d like to admit lamenting global events. Awareness matters, but we do not need to suffer constantly to care deeply — and no movement benefits from our exhaustion.

 Disrupting doom might look like:

• Gently redirecting conversations that spiral into despair: “I hear you — want to take action with me?”
• Replacing one hour of doomscrolling with one real-world action.
• Taking a broader perspective that helps us hold suffering  without being trapped by it.

Anger, fear, and anxiety are valid emotions. Let’s continue to name them while refusing to live inside them all day.

 A — Align Your Focus
We cannot carry every issue equally. Trying guarantees burnout. Let's instead choose of one area to focus on. It could be community activism, supporting independent journalism, environmental efforts, supporting humanitarian aid, combating disinformation, or simply cultivating more peace at home.

As Shauhin notes, wallowing feels like engagement because we’re emotionally activated, but it’s not strategic action. Alignment is.

P — Participate Locally
What’s one step you can take close to home?

Participation doesn’t have to mean running for office (though it can). It can also be volunteering, attending community meetings, supporting local campaigns, or joining organizations that strengthen your neighborhood.

Local action is where change is most accessible — and most deeply felt. And participation builds trust, creates connection, and supports democracy.

T — Together (because hostility weakens us)
“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him.” — Abraham Lincoln.

Political hostility weakens our democracy and sadly its rampant. None of us is perfectly informed or perfectly aligned. Progress depends on extending patience and compassion outward. Instead of turning on each other, we can focus our energy on the broader forces shaping our lives and find common ground in our shared desire for safety, dignity, and stability.

May we choose tolerance.
May we choose respect.
May we remember we are stronger together.

Finally, Shauhin reminds us to to protect our joy.
Joy is not weakness. Joy buffers stress, benefits our health, reconnects us to purpose, and gives us the energy needed to continue fighting for change,

As Viktor Frankl wrote, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude.” Choosing to feel joy, gratitude, and wonder become a means of keeping our spirit intact—an act of resistance against the forces that aim to erode our humanity.

So let’s dance, laugh, create art, visit with friends, go outside and touch the real world — so we can navigate these difficult times  with strength and perspective. 

And let’s continue naming our emotions while using this ADAPT acronym to shift our cues from anxiety to action — toward peace, connection, and joy.

What's one real-world action you can take today to disrupt the doom? For me, maintaining community, staying active, increasing my monthly KQED donation, and getting ready to plant a recession garden are giving me hope.

Finally, I’ve been sitting with an insight from a wonderfully trippy and wholesome podcast I’ve been exploring — one that invites us to lay that burden down. Why do we, as individuals, feel responsible for solving the world’s problems? These are impossibly heavy loads to carry alone .The hosts suggest that sometimes we hold on to the burden because it keeps us from feeling what truly needs to be felt.

As poet David Whyte writes: “Come here now, into the arms of the waiting world. Put down that heavy burden you have carried for so long, and rest from the hard, everyday labor of not hurting, or not feeling, or not hearing, or not saying, or not seeing. Stop keeping the tears at bay. Give it all up. Just come home.” 
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It’s a gentle reminder that we don’t have to hold everything — and we were never meant to.

I consciously limit my time on social media, but over the past few months it feels almost impossible to log in without being hit with something heavy — violence, injustice, corruption, or simply more evidence of how broken things feel in the world.
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I last wrote about our need to seek out the good and curate our feeds for positivity, yet even with those intentions it’s been a struggle. And despite all my usual self‑care efforts I’ve still found myself in a funk. Less patient with my kids, more tired and unmotivated, and forgetting to savor the small things. And I’ve been hard on myself too. It’s humbling to feel stuck when you’re someone who understands the science behind “taking in the good.”

Last week, though, my husband shared a post that helped me finally name what I think's been simmering beneath the surface amid the heaviness of the world: hopelessness. And naming it has been surprisingly powerful — I’ve felt lighter, almost freed, ever since.

As Dr. Dan Siegel teaches, “name it to tame it.” Labeling our emotions reduces their intensity. And shifting from “I am” to “I feel” — “I am anxious” to “I feel anxious” — creates space, reminding us that emotions are experiences we have, not identities we are.

And there’s neuroscience behind it: verbalizing or writing down feelings (aka affect labeling) activates our rational prefrontal cortex and calms our emotional amygdala, the brain's fear center. Naming emotions allows our thinking brain to re-engage, gain perspective, and choose a healthier response.

Of course, this skill depends on a few things: emotional vocabulary, self‑awareness, and a healthy physiological state.

On emotional vocabulary: did you know on average, adults in the U.S. can only identify and accurately label three emotions - happiness, sadness, and anger? In her book Atlas of the Heart, Brené Brown maps 87 distinct emotions, which we need for better emotional granularity. The more specific we can be about what we’re feeling, the better we become at regulating those emotions. 

And around our physical state: we all know how easy it is to be overcome by emotions or lose control when we’re sleep‑deprived, hungry, stressed, or lonely.  The fundamentals always matter — nutrition, sleep, movement, and connection. Emotional regulation is deeply tied to our physical health.

And when it comes to hopelessness, self‑compassion is another cornerstone. As I’ve written before, self-compassion promotes emotional resilience and regulation by fostering kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Self-compassion combats negative thinking patterns that can lead to hopelessness and boosts motivation for change.

I’m still working to shift from self‑criticism to practicing Dr. Kristin Neff’s self‑compassion break, taking a moment to pause and acknowledge the difficulty by saying:

• This is a moment of suffering.
• Suffering is a part of life.
• May I be kind to myself.

So what do we do with this hopelessness? In a timely newsletter from leading workplace well-being expert Jen Fisher titled “Let's Talk About Hopelessness”, she reinforces the power of naming our hopelessness and the problems we create when pretending we feel otherwise. She also reminds us that hope is a skill, not an emotion. As she writes, “Hope is what you do, not what you feel. It’s the actions you take even when—especially when—optimism feels out of reach.” 

And perhaps the most important reminder she offers is that connection matters. We have to find our people - the ones who haven’t given up hope. And we need to open up and be willing to name the hard things. Strong social ties are a critical factor for our mental and physical health and are also associated with higher civic engagement, helping transforming hopeless in to collective action.

Regulating and naming our emotions is a practice. Hopelessness may still visit, but it can’t take over when we can name it. surround ourselves with people who help us carry it (thank you Albert), and take action. And as Maria Popova shared, we need to remember that there is much goodness in the world and that evil only prevails when we mistake it for the norm. So let’s keep showing up for our well-being, for one another, and with small actions that strengthen the fair, safe, and humane world most of us long for. 

In my next post, I'll share some small actions of hope that we can take. Until then, if you’re in a season of heaviness I hope you know you’re not alone. I’m right here with you, naming it, tending to it, and taking the next small, hopeful step. 

What is one small act of hope you can take today?

A few truths I've been holding onto:

1. Love is an act of courage and resistance.
2. The antidote to authoritarianism is connection.
3. Our acts of kindness and generosity, online or offline, have a ripple effect.

 
Here's why:
This year has already brought an overwhelming amount of violence and distressing global events - and it’s only February. This constant stream of troubling news can take a real toll on our emotional well‑being.
 
Chronic exposure to violence, whether direct or through media, activates our “fight, flight, or freeze” response. When the brain perceives the world as dangerous, it redirects energy toward survival — leaving less capacity for patience, empathy, and generosity. Chronic exposure to distressing events can also lead to compassion fatigue, where we feel numb or detached from the suffering of others.
 
And it’s by design. Staying informed matters, but we need to remember that because news outlets are designed to maximize our attention for profit, they often emphasize negative and sensational events. Without intentionally balancing what we consume, this constant exposure can distort our view of reality, heighten anxiety, and chip away at our sense of trust.
 
So how can we break the cycle?

Setting healthy boundaries around media consumption is one place to start. I’ve personally set timers for my social media apps and am trying to make it a habit to reach for a book — not my phone — in moments of boredom.

We've also got to intentionally seek out the good.  Curating our social media and entertainment can genuinely support emotional well‑being. Seeing stories of kindness has been shown to counteract the negative effects of consuming bad news. So let's seek out uplifting content, ask your friends or coworkers about their bright spots or what’s been bringing them joy, and practice random acts of kindness.​

Staying connected to supportive communities, family, and friends is next. It’s essential, but it also takes real effort – which may help explain why more than half of Americans identify as lonely and nearly three in five say no one truly knows them. Staying indoors won’t solve this. We have to push ourselves out of our comfort zones — so join that book club, take that fitness class, show up to your employer’s wellness events, and invite people over. Small acts of reaching out can create the connection we’re all craving — and remind us that the world is less frightening, and far more human, than it appears online.
 
And speaking of inviting people over...according to The Atlantic, America is in a party deficit. In a time when we’re so hungry for connection and community we have to be the ones who open the door and invite people in. And as Priya Parker reminds us, gatherings become meaningful when they have a clear purpose — when we’re intentional about why we’re bringing people together and what we hope the experience will create.
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For me, that purpose has been creativity.  Making something with your hands  — a card, a collage, a mobile, or my newest intrigue: neurographic art — is a powerful and accessible tool for managing anxiety, reducing stress, and connecting to the present moment. It provides a sense of agency in this chaotic world and is a great reason to gather. For the past two years, I’ve been hosting art parties — crafting DIY holiday gifts and, most recently, Valentines. Hosting these gatherings takes work (and requires childcare!), but for me, it’s been a way to honor my values and share light.
 
As Bad Bunny reminded us at the Super Bowl, “the only thing more powerful than hate is love.” Choosing love in a divided world takes courage — and none of us does it perfectly. I certainly don’t, especially as a parent, which is why I often return to Dr. Becky’s “good inside” philosophy and my practice of self-compassion. I also think that courage often begins inward — in treating ourselves with the same kindness we hope to offer the world. When we practice love, kindness, and connection — with ourselves and with others — we invite others to do the same. These are practices. They are choices. And they ripple — exactly what this moment needs.

What about you? What truths have you been holding onto as of late? What helps you stay positive and connected when the world feels overwhelming? What’s a gathering you’ve been craving — and what’s stopping you from initiating it? ​

Inspired by the winter holidays I’ve been reflecting on light—a symbol woven through religious traditions, winter celebrations, and the solstice. Across cultures, light represents hope, renewal, knowledge, truth, and life. It invites us to gather, celebrate, and remember, and can guide us toward deeper spiritual awareness and connection.

As we orbit the sun nature offers its own daily light shows: the sunrise can spark hope and motivation, while a golden sunset can evoke peace and gratitude. Both offer magical moments of awe that call us to presence and mindfulness.

And within light lies a full spectrum of color. When shined through a prism or refracted by clouds after rain, light’s full beauty is revealed as a rainbow. This awe-inspiring phenomenon connects us to life’s magic and reminds me that, like light, we hold a spectrum of experiences, emotions, and traits often hidden from view.

Beyond its symbolism, light also shapes our emotional and physical well-being. It regulates sleep cycles, influences hormones, and affects alertness and focus. Even specific colors can shift our mood and energy.

As we settle into the new year, I’m embracing this theme of light.  My intention is to seek and spread light through mindfulness, gratitude, compassion, patience, hope, and acts of kindness. I’ll also nurture my well-being with light by spending time in nature, prioritizing sleep, reducing evening screen time, and using color intentionally.

As I seek the light, I know that I’ll become a better source of light for my family, friends, colleagues, and community. And on the days I fall short I’ll shine that same light inward with grace and self-compassion.

What might it look like for you to seek and share light today—even in a small way?

"If everything around seems dark, look again, you may be the light." - Rumi

Awe is that feeling when we encounter something so wondrous, vast, inspiring, or mind-blowing that it shifts our perspective and deepens our appreciation of life. And it's all around us, waiting to be discovered – in nature, collective experiences, and big ideas.

Recent moments of awe have brought me back to this space – this blog that I created to help others and, in the process, help myself. From feeding a majestic white horse, to reading an inspiring newsletter (shared below), meditating with my son* at the state park, beholding sunlight filtering through the clouds, watching a hummingbird sip from our leaking hose, hiking on a trail veiled in fog, and being mesmerized by a guitarist at our local farmers market…all fairly small moments, but taking time to savor these everyday wonders has been an easy way to become more attuned to joy and gratitude in my daily life.

So…what have been some recent moments of awe for you?

In the words of Raph Waldo Emerson, awe repairs. And research backs this up: awe can ease stress and anxiety, lower inflammation, boost mood and cognitive function, enhance creativity, and even support heart health. It shifts our focus outward, reminding us we’re part of something larger—nurturing kindness, generosity, and a sense of community. All qualities desperately needed in this era of division and incivility.

So let’s become awe-seekers. Let’s slow down and notice. Let’s engage our senses and seek out nature, the arts, and collective effervescence. Let’s unplug, open up, reframe the ordinary, and reflect on our experiences through journaling or discussion with others. I believe that experiencing awe can make the world a better place. And it’s waiting for us, if we choose to look. 

Love Against Probability
By Maria Popova

You wouldn’t have bet on it, this battered rock orbiting a star from the discount bin of the universe, you wouldn’t have bet that it would bloom mitochondria and music, that it would mushroom mountains and minds, and the hummingbird wing whirring a hundred times faster than your eye can blink, and your eye that took 500 million years from trilobite to telescope, and the unhurried orange lichen growing on the black boulder two hundred times more slowly than the continental plates beneath are drifting apart, and the marbled orca carrying her dead calf the length of the continent, carrying the weight of consciousness, and consciousness, how it windows this tenement of breath and bone with wonder, how it hovers over everything, gigantic and unnecessary, like love.

It is all so improbable, this wild and wondrous world, against all we know about the universe. And yet here it is, and here we are, set on it to know that we are dying and live anyway, and love anyway.

Our most beautiful, most transformative, most vivifying experiences and encounters are like that — they enter our lives through the back door of expectation, shattering the laws of probability with the golden gavel of the possible.

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*we’ve been enjoying the Calm App together, which is free for all KP members!

In place of New Years resolutions, I have focused on personal intentions or mantras to be my guide. Having a phrase or word to aspire to has helped ground me and guide my actions and thoughts toward that desired way of being. The past two years my mantras have been grace and self-compassion, and during difficult moments I can’t describe how helpful it was to take a breath and fall into those words to reset my actions and self-talk.  

As we witness the devastation from the fires in Southern California, accept the new political administration, and navigate other conflicts both internal and external, I have been feeling the need to focus on mental fortitude and equanimity.

Mental fortitude is a term my amazing husband introduced to me during a conversation where my head was spinning with the difficulties near and far, real and projected. Like fortifying the walls of a castle, think of fortifying the walls of your mind…it’s the psychological strength to persevere through challenges or when facing uncertainty without letting anxiety or negativity overwhelm you.

Just like with physical fitness, developing mental strength and fortitude is within our control. And like fitness it’s not a one-time effort, but something we work at on a regular basis -- cultivating healthy habits, coping strategies, and positive thinking patterns in the face of adversity. 

Equanimity is a state of calm and even mindedness during difficulty or stress and is considered a key virtue in Eastern religious traditions, especially Buddhism, where it is cultivated through mindfulness practices. Essentially, it means being able to observe experiences without being overly reactive or attached to them.  It's not apathy or indifference, but moving beyond the "good vs. bad" mindset by accepting all experiences with a neutral perspective - letting things be as they are, right now, without judgement or trying to control what happens next. With equanimity, we can develop a more spacious relationship with our experiences and navigate life's challenges with balance and grace.

When I think of mental fortitude and equanimity some actions that come to mind include:

• Checking in and acknowledging your physical and mental state without judgement. Too often we push through persistent stress and stuff down our emotions. Taking time each day to slow down to assess how we’re feeling is a form of mindfulness and lets us take action in alignment with our values. Brene Brown’s book Atlas of the Heart offers an emotional vocabulary, which can help us identify, work with, and regulate our emotions.
• Finding numerous small moments for mindfulness during the day. Let’s be empowered by the fact that mindfulness is not limited to formal meditation. Journaling, practicing gratitude, yoga, and bringing conscious awareness to everyday tasks are great opportunities for us to build our mindfulness muscle. Apps like Calm (which KP members get at no cost!) help too! Among its many benefits, mindfulness helps us gain distance from our thoughts and emotions, which seems essential during this time. Neuroimaging research also shows that mindfulness can decrease activity in brain regions associated with negative self-evaluation. 
• Take time for self-care, whatever that means to you. Prioritize it by planning for it. Choose things that really fill your cup and have faith that even small moments of joy can make a tremendous impact. Involve people in your life to ensure you can carve out this time.
• Reach out to others and stay connected with your support network. Loneliness is all to prevalent in today’s world and research shows that social support can help increase positive emotions, reduce stress, and alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression.
• Build small moments of accomplishment each week. Research suggests strong links between achievement and our mental state; completing even the most basic of goals and tasks can boost our mood and well-being. And for a double whammy, honor the actions taken for self-care, caring for a loved one, writing a card, or volunteering, which also increase our sense of purpose.
• Maintain your physical well-being, including adequate sleep, loading up on foods that support our mental health, and taking time for physical activity, which helps reduce stress and improves mood.
• Challenge negative and nihilistic self-talk. Observe thoughts and emotions without judgment and track which type of negative thinking patterns repeat. With awareness and non-attachment, we can challenge our unhelpful thought patterns and start to replace them with healthier, more constructive thoughts. Lean into self-compassion, crack a joke, and invite a trusted friend or therapist in for guidance and reassurance.
• Finally, enjoy social media mindfully. It can be a source of entertainment and connection, but can also increase our anxiety. Track usage and set boundaries, turn off notifications, and actively choose to engage with content that brings positive emotions rather than mindlessly scrolling through negativity. W

This is a loaded list in support of mental fortitude and equanimity, and I am hopeful that when facing difficulty this year I will take any one of the above actions to connect me to these two mantras of mine. With mental fortitude and equanimity I believe we can better handle whatever comes our way with calm, confidence, and grace.